10 tips for a happy relationshipThe work never stops so get started now

Think you can sit back and a relationship will run itself ? it takes thought and effort to make things run smoothly.

1. Without spending quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Try and spend at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when the two of you spend time exclusively together.

2. Encourage your partner to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he/she does. By the same token, show interest when he/she talks to you and instead of waiting for him/her to tell you how their day went ask and he/she will appreciate that more.

3. You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and most people don’t like doing this but for your loved one you have to give and take for both sides and this will work a treat, if it's 50/50 then you should both be relatively happy to give an take, if it's 70/30 then how long is it going to take for resentment and unhappiness to get to boiling point ?

4. Make him/her appreciate you. Don't wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his/her agreement and this wont make you look or sound desperate for a compliment, don't talk yourself down, if you do it enough your partner is going to end up wondering what they are doing with a negative person with low self esteem.

5. Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to give a good feeling in your relationship - giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile and showing him/her that you love them, take "you" time and pause a moment to enjoy each other's company, it's easy to rush all day and not stop for a moment.

6. What first attracted you to your partner can you remember what it was ?, it may have evolved or changed with time, but Learn to love them, bad habits and all.

7. Teach your partner, preferably early in your relationship, show, tell, teach your partner exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm this will also make your relationship stronger as your partner will know just how to make you feel good, you don't have to say "Yes I love that" if you are a bit embarrassed, just moan a little more when you like something or go quiet if it doesn't feel so good, if they change back to how you liked it.. then let them know with some movement and an appreciative moan or two.. sooner or later they will get it to an art.

8. Keep you independence and try and not spend too much time together I know this may sound hard but your relationship will be stronger, don’t come a cross as a bunny boiler and start keeping him/her locked in the loft away from the world, it's about balance, when you are together make it count, when you are apart you should be looking forward to being together, Both of you need to get free time, maybe go out say once a week and have fun when the morning after comes don’t be scared to tell your partner about your night out as well as ask them about theirs, if you don't trust your partner enough to let them out then your relationship is ill founded as it is, and you need to address the trust issue.

9. Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while your partners are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions to solve it. Express your problem and then ask him/her to help you find the answer, and a top tip here from a guy ! when a guy asks you what's wrong then TELL THEM ! don't do the "nothing" routine !.. girls often make guys hunt out the problem or think "If he doesn't know I wont tell him" but it's far easier to just tell him and then he can address the problem or chose to ignore it, if he ignores it then go to town on him.

10. And a golden rule if you are out with your friends and your partner comes out with you DO NOT change your personality, your partner will see a whole new side to you and if it’s not a good sight prepare to be dismissed.

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