10 Tips to get into online datingGet online and dating but take care, here is how
Fed up of looking for love in the pub ? then get online dating, it is not for everyone but it does work for many.
1) Separate email address : get a hotmail or yahoo email address, for two good reasons, one if the site you join sends you unsolicited emails it wont matter too much as you can simply stop using the account and site. Secondly, if anyone turns out to be a bit of a fruitcake then at least they only have this email address for you and you can stop using it and get a new one.
2) Be honest : Make sure your online dating profile is a true representation of who you are, what’s the point in lying or misleading people, if you aren’t slim, don’t say so and if you are married then don’t say single, there are people out there that love every type of person and in lying all you will end up doing is setting yourself up for a fall later.
3) Streamline your profile : let it run for a while and see what the response is like, then have a sit back and refine and change your profile, emphasise your good points and what points a person may like about you, ask a friend to check your profile out and see if it sounds like you, you could ask them to write an objective profile of you and take things from this that you think are suitable.
4) To the Masses : Get out there.. pick a dating site where you can contact members and chat directly too them or at least request MSN messenger or yahoo messenger ID’s (creating a new one for dating only is a good idea, then as you trust people give them access to your normal MSN or yahoo messenger) chat and interact as much as you can, you’ll soon get into it , remember to ask open questions like who, what, when, why, etc. rather than closed ones like, do you think this or that.. leaving only as yes or no answer, Remember what they tell you and look out for inconsistencies that may mean they aren’t being too truthful.
5) Be a shameless, flirt: ok not shameless but waste no time, you can flirt and be classy, it does not have to turn to smut talk. Be humorous but do not let people take liberties or get you to do things you do not want them too like reveal personal information sooner than you would like. Remember you are the prize so let them know that it’s you who is deciding whether to let them have a shot not the other way around.
6) Get it all: Get as much information out of the prospective parent of your next child as you can (essentially that could be who it turns out to be so be thoughtful about it!) drawing up a list of questions is a good idea and you can casually drop them in or just humorously say.. “ok I have a checklist to go through to see if you are worthy of me.. do you mind if I make a start ?” Ask questions about the stuff they’ve left out of their profile, maybe children, pets, race etc. things that may be important to you, if it is then ask them.
7) Spread the word: Get that email working for you. Why sit there waiting for someone to spot you ?, if you see someone you like, fire them an email over just to say hi, something like “hi I spotted your profile on xxxxx.com and you sound nice, please check out my profile (username xxxxx) and drop me a line if you fancy a chat.. thanks.. “You have to be the active one so get out there.
8) No way !: It’s not nice to be rejected but don’t take it personally, it’s easy to say I know, but really .. don’t take it to heart, there is someone out there for you for sure.
take a look around you ! Everyday people are together of every shape and size, often you will get no reply, this could be for a number of reasons, from you sound too frumpy or humorous (and they are frumpy !) to your picture doesn’t show you in your best light (solve with good quality pictures) and they didn’t fancy you in the slightest. Whatever the reason you must be prepared for rejection, but think of it this way, the more frogs you kiss the sooner you will find the prince!
9) Thanks but no thanks !: Following on from above really, if you don’t fancy someone and it’s for a specific reason then you can do one of two things, do nothing and ignore their contact attempt or tactfully point out why you didn’t like their profile. Doing the latter may feel right the right thing but if you do then be prepared occasionally for some backdraught from it when they take offence, personally I tell them why I’m not interested.
10) Keep on running !: Give online dating at least 3 months and remember you are looking for the other piece of the jigsaw here so you need to give it a good go, The internet can be an amazing tool for online dating due to the fact most (not all though, sadly) people are honest and find it easier to chat and express themselves via a keyboard easier than they can chat face to face, so if you ask the right questions in the right way you really can get to know the person from the inside out rather than the outside in, as with conventional dating.
Changing sites can help as they do attract different types of people, good luck and for a reputable site to start at try DatingDirect.com or DateTheUk.com
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